September 17, 2007

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Friday @ Five – White Out! You might wonder if we're having a snow storm here in Eastern Pennsylvania – no, too warm for that. White Out weekend is to use a bottle of White Liquid Paper or roll of Wite-Out Correction tape, or the Delete Key on your keyboard to take a meaningful step toward improving your energy which will improve your productivity and give you more of the outcomes that you want. The White Out activity for this weekend is to remove some of the drains on your energy. The drainers I'm talking about are people whom you find tiresome because they rarely have uplifting things to say, complainers who have loads of negative to say and are always right, or users who take take take from you and don't give back. These are probably people you stay in contact with because you 'should'. Something in the past has made you feel obligated to stay connected, even if remotely. And, they do nothing to help you be positive, have a good life, or contribute. Take that correction tape and white them out of your address book. Hit that delete key and confirm the deletion from your contacts list with conviction. Get rid of the gray cloud that these people represent. To make this a quick exercise, remove just 10-20 of the top people you feel trapped with. In my experience, hanging out with and spending time with negative people is like taking a dose of poison. That dose of poison is toxic and too much of it or repeated exposure can hurt you in direct as well as indirect ways. There isn't any reason for you to be around toxins. Replace them with people you like for whatever good reason you like them and watch how much easier work, responsibilities, and 'the good life' become. ================= R & R (rest and rejuvenation) are the intentions behind the Friday @ Five entries. Often these are inexpensive and low key because you recharging your batteries can be more easily achieved without running around and doing, doing, doing. Many Friday @ Five entries are geared to do with your family or friends.
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Never Eat Alone - Book Review Never Eat Alone by Keith Ferrazzi illuminates what I didn't learn attending public high school, the local swim club, a selective college or even in my first couple of jobs. He starts with the premise that who you work, network, and play with will impact your happiness and success in life (his emphasis is on the business success side of that statement). And, Keith continues, making connections so that your life is rich, productive professionally, and contributes to community can be done consciously, purposefully, and with class. In fact Ferrazzi supports that networking should be done as a deliberate and structured part of career and life development. My opinion briefly: "Read this book – it's a quick investment of time with a long-term payoff." Like our favorite, Getting Things Done by David Allen, the concepts in the book are easy to grasp yet challenging to implement and develop into a robust practice. It will take time to get networking a natural and routine. Keith Ferrazzi is a living implementation of his recommendations. He's his word in action – not theory untested though reasonable. That alone gives it kudos from me. Some of the cogent points in this book: Studies of Business School Grads show that their success is not relative to their grades. It is based on their ability to work with others and connect with others. Conscious competence in the practice of making good connections will lead to opportunities beyond technical ability and industry or job knowledge. Networking is about giving generously with the confidence that such acts will 'go around and come around' in abundance. Ferrazzi advocates being mentored and mentoring others as part of this mindset. He also calls the schlocky 'networking events' what they are – too many people wanting rather than giving and supports a better approach. Ferrazzi takes time to explore the many dimensions of networking so that one can learn the basics and some of the nuances of power networking. Such dimensions include: making small talk, finding common ground (health, wealth & children), and being a 'conference commando'. That advice on maximizing my time at conferences was valuable as I used to find 35% of my time at conferences to be time I felt in limbo, time wasted, or time unproductive. Ferrazzi avoids tech tools for managing the contact with literally thousands of people. He refers to his rolodex and suggests that he...

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I am a tool-loving productivity specialist who gets things done so I can travel the world, bicycle our country, spoil my friends & colleagues, and show you how to do the same.

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